Especially since I live in North Carolina, the recent riots in Charlotte caught my attention. Part of me loves to see people rebelling in the streets instead of acting like sheeple who submit authority without question. But another part of me sees that the actions of all parties in a conflict actually fueling the separation. For me, the question of who is right or wrong has no baring at all. Someone might respond wondering how that could be.
I see the journey of our lifetimes as subjective experiences that provide us with opportunities to try a menu of responses to see how they feel. When I drank too much in the past and did things that I regretted, I decided to stop drinking alcohol. When I allowed my fear to prevent me from speaking up to take care of myself, I started slowly to say that I wasn't comfortable no matter how it seemed to affect others. We are all responsible to choose what feels right to us and I have total faith in humanity as creations of the source, that we don't feel comfortable harming each other.
So media is spouting in our faces that the police are killing innocent black men and children. It sure looks to me like they have and that feels horrible. Black lives do matter and I see how that is different from all lives matter. I understand the outrage and feel compassion for anyone who is suffering because of this issue or any other. What do we do? We naturally tend to take sides, or at least, we've been trained to do that. But that will not fix anything!
Isn't that what we want? to fix it? Fix means to repair. Repair means to restore after decay or damage. We see something that is dysfunctional and we feel uncomfortable, no matter which side we are on, and we want to FIX it. EVERYTHING is in a constant process of change all the time from the beginning of this planet until now. When we can fully embrace that reality, then a shift of perspective begins. Next, if we can focus on the desired end result such as peace and harmony for all, all races, all religions, all colors, all jobs, all perspectives then there is a shift in perspective again. How does it feel to want peace for both or all sides? Now, we can unite in a common goal and speak from a place of unity and togetherness with clear heads and calm emotions. This creates trust and changes of behavior naturally follow. Rather than seeking to fix what appears to be broken in our society, we can ask ourselves what can we learn from this experience and how does it feel.
As scary as it is to admit, nobody has all the answers, nobody really knows what the hell we are doing, and as long as people cling in fear to their ideas about this experience claiming to "know" for sure, those people remain stuck in a limited paradigm.
May all the people who are feeling upset and in pain be blanketed with peace, safety and love. May all people in conflict be washed with a relaxing feeling of compassion for others and themselves. May all beings on the planet feel safe, loved, protected, and secure.